Hmmm, did this title make you curious? What are habits of happy moms? Have you been lacking in your happiness as a mom lately? Do you not know how to start or how to keep it? Despair not! In this post, I will share with you, along with some blogger friends, 10 habits that happy moms have.
Read through them and pick one or two to apply per day so you can find and keep happiness in your life. It is so important for us, mom, to be happy and many times, we neglect this deep-rooted need.
10 Habits of Happy Moms
1. Happy moms hug more.
This is “chicken or the egg?” question because is it that moms are happy because they hug more or do they hug more because they are happy or are they happy because of all the hugs they get in return? I think it’s a mix of all three! I LOVE my morning hugs! It’s tradition now and I miss them when I don’t get them.
I read some statistics that newborns in the NICU that were held and hugged more had higher chances of survival and I also read that human need an average of 13 hugs a day! Well, when we are open to hugs and initiate hugs with our little one, we will never go without! Isn’t that fantastic?
2. Happy moms smile more.
We smile more because we look at the positive, even if we have to look past all kinds of messes and clutter and negative things. Seeing our little ones playing and laughing and giggling is priceless. I love watching my kids when they are in front of a mirror. They make funny faces and talk in funny voices without them knowing they are bringing a smile to my face.
I also love looking through old pictures and videos. It is hard to NOT smile! I highly recommend having a good laugh and emotional smiles, especially during hard days. Sometimes, when new are having an “off” day at home, I stop what we are doing, I pull out the baby albums out or sit one kid on each leg in front of my computer and we go through pictures and videos of when they were babies. I tell them stories. They smile. I smile.
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3. Happy moms turn the news off during the day.
My children are highly sensitive to the news. They pay attention. They notice. They worry. I don’t want to necessarily shelter them from everything in our world, but while they are young and their job is to be children, why put them in such a position? I am happy to ignore the TV during the day (unless the Tour de France is on in July or it’s Olympics season) and live in bliss with my children while we homeschool.
I do have a news app that send me alerts to my mobile when something urgent happens, but my children don’t see these. I want to be “in the know” without worrying my children. Seeing their innocence and their joy makes me happy. Turning the news off for us is definitely one thing that makes me a happy mom.
4. Happy Moms celebrate the small successes.
Sharla from The Chaos and The Clutter shares: When you’re raising kids, especially special needs kids, you can sometimes lose sight of the small victories but taking a step back and realizing how far you’ve come by celebrating each step along the way helps keep me encouraged.
5. Happy Moms make time do something for someone.
I cannot tell you how many times I saw a need and decided to stop and help (even though I was in a hurry to get somewhere) and was glad I did. I am not just talking about my husband or my children. I mean doing someone for a friend or a stranger. I like to make extra food sometimes and bless friends with an unexpected yummy meal or surprise our garbage man with a cold drink.
People appreciate it, but guess what? It does us good, too! It makes us happy and it is so worth it because our children are watching us and learning how to act and behave. They pick up on our generosity, especially with our time and money. My children love to run bags of clothes over to the neighbor that they have outgrown for her little ones to use. They are definitely growing and we are nurturing a giving spirit in them.
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6. Happy Moms enjoy nature (get out of the house).
Jennifer Dawn from The Life of Jennifer Dawn shares: Enjoying nature: Sometimes all the kids and I need is a little time outside to set the tone for a positive day. It might be going on a natural walk in the park, visiting the zoo, picking crops from our garden or a local berry patch, or just playing in our own yard.
There are times when an outing is in order. We’ve been home for days, and it makes the kids and me happier to plan a fun trip. It might be shopping, a local attraction, eating out, or even just a visit to Mimi’s house.
7. Happy Moms stay on top of the mess.
Getting organized comes easily for some and it can be overwhelming for others, but some sort of order in the home is a must. I came across an article last week that says that clutter triggers feelings of depression. I can totally see that! Whenever I let the cabinet under the sink get out of control or haven’t put folded laundry away and the loads are piling up, I feel overwhelmed and sometimes have trouble figuring out where to start.
Do not despair! You can get organized, even if it is one room at a time. It will make you a happier mom. Trust me. My children have their own list of chores that they do for our family. They are age-appropriate for them. Not only is this helpful for you, but it is great forth to develop a sense of responsibility as they learn to take care of their hygiene and their things.
8. Happy Moms take care of themselves.
Monique from Living Life and Learning shares: One thing to ensure that I’m a happy mom is to take care of myself, I’m a introvert and I need my time at night for myself and when I don’t get that, I feel out of whack. It’s my time to recharge as I read or watch a movie or show. It’s me taking time of myself so that I can be that happy mom when the kids wake up.
9. Happy Moms have friends.
Do you have a friend that you can talk to when you feel lonely or need a good sounding board for ideas? Or do you have a friend that can count on you when she needs you? Have you come up with ways to keep up with her? I know that being wives and moms come first, but having at least one close friend is essential to happiness. I say that happy moms have friends and it is 100% true. I can vouch for that.
When we first moved here, I didn’t know anyone, but having people here that were welcoming and inviting was a huge game-changer for me. At the time, I had an 18-month old and I was in my second trimester, so getting out wasn’t my cup of tea, but I so needed to! I felt so much better when I left all the half-unpacked boxes at home and headed out to chat with a neighbor or call a friend while I swung my toddler on his favorite swing at the park.
10. Happy Moms make meals easier.
Sharla from Freezer Meals 101 and I agree completely! She says: Freezer meals, which may seem like a strange thing to say in terms of what helps me be a happy mom, but believe me, when I open my freezer and see all my meals for the month in there, it’s a very happy moment!
I agree with her! I have made freezer meals in a fraction of the time it would take me to make each one individually. The meals are kid-friendly, family-friendly and quick and easy. You honestly cannot beat that and you cannot afford to not preplan at least one meals per week. I like to cook fresh a few times a week, but on those busy days, I am happy to know that all I have to do is reach into the freezer, defrost and bake (or put in the slow cooker) and done!
I hope you find these points true. Being a happy mom makes everyone in the family happier, too. The key is to not make our happiness dependent on others.
We have to be a thermostat in a world of thermometers!
Let’s align our feelings with positive ones and affect our environment, instead of the other way around.
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